FFD: How do you deal with the feeling of missing out?

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Right now, the vocal, video-game centric bits of the internet are all talking about Fallout 4 and to a lesser extent, Rise of the Tomb Raider. That doesn’t mean, of course, that all of you are playing them.

Instead, you get to sit on the side-lines while people talk about the thing’s they’re doing in Fallout, how they’re building their settlements, what sorts of mods they’re putting on their guns. Some will (especially from today!) talk about some of the clever Tombs Lara has to get through.

It’s especially egregious in this age of social games, and social media. I remember when Destiny’s infamous loot cave was discovered, and how almost all conversation at the time centred around the cave run. It’s something I even found myself doing (before I decided that I hated Destiny, of course) – and the social aspect of it is something that Destiny covered in a blog update.

“The social experience of a cave farming run is amazing: the herding to get a team of Guardians all behind the line and firing in the right direction, the rush to grab the loot, the scramble when the panic wave starts, the beckoning glow from inside the cave. The speed at which the community organized around this activity was inspiring and humbling to us.

But shooting at a black hole for hours on end isn’t our dream for how Destiny is played. Our hope is that social engagement in public spaces is only one part of the Destiny experience. Expect changes soon which decrease the efficiency of cave farming and correspondingly increase engram drops from completing activities.”

It happens with all big games though. Metal Gear Solid V had people everywhere talking about fultoning sheep, The Witcher 3 had the internet chatting about Gwent. It can lead to fears of missing out – feeling like you’re not part of some cultural zeitgeist. And then it can lead you to running off and spending your money on a game that you neither want nor need. Perhaps you’ve even bought Call of Duty: Black Ops3 this year, despite hating the series. Such is the power of hype, and the fear of missing out.

How do you deal with that feeling of exclusion, or are you impervious to the hype, resolute and wavering? I feel it, certainly, when there’s great big bits of hype surrounding big multiplayer games – before realising I hate other people.

Last Updated: November 13, 2015

Geoffrey Tim

Editor. I’m old, grumpy and more than just a little cynical. One day, I found myself in possession of a NES, and a copy of Super Mario Bros 3. It was that game that made me realise that games were more than just toys to idly while away time – they were capable of being masterpieces. I’m here now, looking for more of those masterpieces.

  • I grab a bag of potato chips, jump on the couch and go watch Anime.

    • Starcraft and Fallout is making me delay quite a bit of this weeks episodes. Anime backlo0gs are hell to get through.

      • I am backed up about 5 series of new releases, but nothing a good old Sunday marathon can’t fix.

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    • WitWolfy

      Virginity shield activate! hehehe

      • Dutch Matrix

        I dunno. Just had a girl tell me she cannot get turned on if she does not view hentai… I dunno why she shared that info with me…

      • stereotypes assemble!

        • WitWolfy

          Dont worry bro I have a handful of animes on my media center too. Just pulling your leg.

          • I know, that’s why I used the Ron Burgundy reference 😛

          • WitWolfy

            Aaah, not a fan of the sequel though, probably why I didnt get that. Nothing beats the original.

  • (Umar) Must be Cipher

    Watch me whip out my credit card.
    Watch me pay pay.

    • That reference needs a downvote… but I will let it slide for now.

      • (Umar) Must be Cipher

        lol forgive me…I don’t know what came over me.

        • xD

          I forgive you for keeping me up to date on Nintendo stuff on twitter today 😛

          • (Umar) Must be Cipher

            Hahaha, I shouldn’t overhype things like that though X_X

          • Nah, my 3DS needs some JRPG love. Finished Majora’s Mask and need something new.

          • (Umar) Must be Cipher

            Well, your 3DS gonna get a lot of JRPG lovin soon!

    • (Umar) Must be Cipher

      I apologize to the public for this reference. I’m sorry.

      • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

        Into the corner, you must go

        • (Umar) Must be Cipher

          I’ll nae nae to the corner 🙁

  • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

    I play Warframe

  • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

    I have offline Gwent cards now

  • Hammersteyn

    I cry spoilers and hate everyone

    • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

      …and buy shitty games out of peer pressure

      • *cough* blops

      • Hammersteyn

        It’s not shitty. Gavin gave it 9/10

        • But he drinks light beer :

        • (Umar) Must be Cipher

          It’s Call of Duty, he’d give the Vita COD version a 9 😛

        • Mossel

          On a serious note though… how is the game? The multiplayer and zombies specifically? Cos R699 is a lot of money to waste on something that I might not like.

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            He hates it, don’t let his typed words fool you, I heard it out of his mouth

          • Ir0nseraph

            He took one for the team :P, the game is fun with friends , but if you don’t like PvP wait for a special or skip.

          • WitWolfy

            R699 is cheap!!! AC Syndicate cost me like R900

          • Mossel

            R699 for PC…that’s not so cheap! haha

          • WitWolfy

            Ok, you got me there..

          • Hammersteyn

            PVP is solid if you like it. Truly. Campaign is entertaining even if the story is confusing. Haven’t had too much time with zombies

      • WitWolfy

        More like impulse buyer*, moments later.. buyers remorse… EVERY TIME!!!

  • This only happens to me in social (or anti-social) survival games. ARK was hella fun but now the community is dying down a bit. Same with DayZ and 7 Days to die. The faster you get on board the more fun you have. As for the rest. I finished starcraft 2 last night and only then started playing with Fallout 4.

    Ignore the posts and enjoy the games at your own pace.

  • Alien Emperor Trevor

    Easy, I deal with it by not feeling it in the first place. It’s great people are having fun playing game X that I’m not and they can be excited about it all they like, but it’s not like I’m sitting crying in the rain because I’m somehow excluded… I’m having fun playing game Y, not having no fun at all because I’m not playing game X. And that’s even if I’m interested in game X in the first place, sometimes fan boys forget people like different things.

    • Got asked twice this week why I am playing Starcraft instead of Fallout.

      Cause Starcraft is EPIC. I suppose not everyone gets this whole RTS thing.

      Also John De Lancie!

      • Yesterday 2 randoms asked me if I knew “Fallout” because they keep hearing about it in the news. Reply with “are they a band or something?”

        • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

          O_O

          • You don’t ask a man silly questions on a Thursday, when he is walking with 2 bags of booze home.

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            So, VOID runs later tonight?

          • Void runs ALL night!

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            YUSSSS!!!!!

            I’ll only be on later, going to a mandatory braai first at my father in law’s house, but I like him a lot, so will be back full of braaivleis and beer, BUT READY FOR THE VOID!

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            (Heh, filled up, but going to a void, such irony)

          • This is gaming Friday, usually only ends between 1 am and 3am

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            Hahaha, I’ve got remote work tomorrow at 08h00, but screw it

          • Work. Work never changes

          • WitWolfy

            Dude.. I wish.. My daughter’s sleep patterns determine my gaming times lol

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            Same here, BUT, her sleep patterns are golden now!

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            Baro tonight too.

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            Eh?

          • The rare mod seller

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            Oooh nice, I have 100k

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            Even that might not be enough 😀

            Plus you need ducats from selling prime parts.

          • More like 150k and 20 prime parts to give 🙂

            This is unfortunately end game stuff 😛

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            I built all those damn Nyx MFP systems we got instead of chassis. 50 ducats for the completed thing instead of 10 for the bp. 😀

          • I have to go find the list of full crafted items that can be sold.

            Nevermind, I found it

          • Alien Emperor Trevor
          • Thanks 🙂

            Just saw it when I went to go look at the wiki 😛

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            Drat

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            The fortnightly trader that pops up in one of the relays to sell special goodies.

          • Rumors about Prime sweeping serration…

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            Meh. I hope not. There’s already primed point blank.

          • I need to start modding my shotguns, this will help me a bit 😛

      • Bob of the Khundelar

        But dem feels. I’m only a few missions in and already I’m taking hits.

        • Typed a whole damn thing out then remembered spoilers so here goes.

          I almost had man tears.

          • Dutch Matrix

            It’s okay. You two are the only people playing StarCraft on these boards. 😛

          • miaau

            NO. I will play next month, thanks!

          • Dutch Matrix

            The dog dies. 😛

          • Depends. In the directors cut the dog lives but get m,utated to become the dominant species and man becomes the house pet.

          • Dutch Matrix

            I…. I kind of like that idea. Then I can hump my dogs leg for no reason, and let him feel how that feels!

          • Also you can poop anywhere you want and no work.

            ALL HAIL OUR THE CANINE OVERLORDS!

          • Dutch Matrix

            And they feed you, play with you, you sleep in their bed. I am worried about them cutting my balls off though.

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            Rad Pooches to go along with the Rad Roaches?

          • Only need two to play Archon mode. 😛

          • Johann

            Also finishing up StarCraft before I get into the time sink that is Fallout 4. Must say, I’m enjoying Legacy of the Void more than Heart of the Swarm.

          • Anything with John De Lancie in it is better. He is to voice acting like Bacon is to food.

          • miaau

            I dislike playing Zerg, so I think that mean HOTS will always be last for me, not even having played legacy of the void

          • Bob of the Khundelar

            I know. It doesn’t help that he was my favourite and Artanis’ speeches are really moving.

          • Wait till much later. Not really a spoiler but after the campaign you unlock …. ANOTHER CAMPAIGN!

    • And in the end I usually buy the games a year later when the hype has died down, and the true “good games” are singled out.

      • Alien Emperor Trevor

        True dat yo!

  • Bob of the Khundelar

    I find the best way to deal with FOMO (yours or someone else’s) is a good healthy dose of FOLMO – F&*k Off. Leave Me Out. [Insert stupid marketing line here} – like “guaranteed to work 70% of the time all of the time”.

  • The Sten

    I take all the money i saved from not buying that game and buy alchohol instead to drown my sorrows….its a vicious cycle

  • oVg

    I really dont understand the question.

    • miaau
      • oVg

        I see. I suppose I dont care as I am my own Constitution, hence being more than happy not having the internet as part of my gaming experience. Probably just old. Im sure I was a lemming in my 20s and 30s.

        • Alien Emperor Trevor

          lol

          • oVg

            😛 the good old 30s

          • Alien Emperor Trevor

            You lemming 😛

          • oVg

            Reminds me, I must buy the next iPhone incase I miss out on another super App.

    • Hype yes or no? Extra points for why.

      • oVg

        Oh, then its NO because 2014 taught us that its all bollocks thanks to every game being broken on release day. I still cant believe the amount of CGI that is still used at E3.

        I look at reviews these days to see if the game is playable, not if its good or bad.

        • You should see the Starcraft2:LotV end credits. 20 seconds of filled screen names under QA. No wonder the game was 100% working without the need for a day 1 patch out of the box.

  • Dutch Matrix

    I’ll admit. I fell for the Fallout 4 Hype. I even raided our emergency slush fund for it. But was told by the Minister of my Finances I have to pay it all back come payday.

    • miaau

      Good for you! Is it worth it?

      • Dutch Matrix

        I dunno. Only got the game today. And tonight I am checking out Madame Zingara.

    • WitWolfy

      Sounds like me with MGS V at the time.

    • oVg

      I think its an age thing. The reason why Fallout 4 is being treated like the second coming is because the average age of the gamer Pre-Social internet was 14 when Fallout 3 came out in 2008.

      Those kids are all 20 now and the nostalgia is super strong with the franchise. I bet todays 14 year olds are so overloaded in the electronic age resulting in them being super privileged hence the polaric user reviews on Metacritic.

      I see the same with Halo, Angry Joe said the same thing in his Halo review.

      • Dutch Matrix

        Dude, I am 40 and never liked Fallout 3 to begin with. I succumbed to the hype…

        • oVg

          Same, the game is dope. It has a Borderlands vibe with RAGE shooting and Oblivion story telling. Im hooked. As for Fallout 3? It never grabbed me, probably because I was too busy playing Mass Effect at the time.

          • Ir0nseraph

            I don’t like these comments, I need to fight the hype.
            I found 3 very boring , were are all the bad comments on fallout 4 when i need them.

          • oVg

            Its very much the same as 3 but more streamlined in areas. The perks are better this time around and there is no limit cap. I think its also the fact that all the junk you salvage is actually used for something this time around. That, coupled with vibrant graphics and a shit load of customisation makes it the ultimate sandbox.

            But if you need more linear direction for faster pacing then its not for you. Its all about the atmosphere and isolation that makes it great.

            I was lost in 3, I had no idea how to have fun in that game, it was for the hardcore. 4 is more user friendly.

          • Ir0nseraph

            I will resist for as long as I can, get that backlog cleared, but it sounds like i need to try it when I am done.

          • oVg

            ya, its a Skyrim game, it gets better as it ages. No rush.

          • Dutch Matrix

            Are you me????

          • oVg

            yes, only the best 🙂

  • Hammersteyn

    Tiniest Jason mask EVER! Kid on the left

    • What size screens do you guys have at work O.o

      • Hammersteyn

        I use my whiskey glasses as reading glasses

        • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

          ^This guy

          • He needs a visit and a braai, he knows how to get through a day xD

    • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

      You make me smile when you freak out about the hidden images 😀

      • Hammersteyn
        • xD

        • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

          Such a dirdddy man

          • Was sewe soorte…

          • Hammersteyn

            I applaud Geoff and Darryn. Much skill

          • Her Highness the Hipster

            which is why i don’t take part in these things 😛

          • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

            Hahaha, self trolling level = Hipster lvl 9

          • Hammersteyn

            You’ve gotten better though

  • WitWolfy

    I dunno I never feel out.. I have this illusion where I think the whole world wants to do what I do.

  • GooseZA

    I’m usually fine with waiting for games but I have to admit, I’m currently suffering from a serious case of the Gotta-Get-Fallouts.

  • Ir0nseraph

    Missing out on single player games like fallout isn’t a big thing for me, after a while i will forget some spoilers so I will pick it up when there is a huge open gaming gap, the hours needed to finish it seems huge.
    On the Multiplayer coop front, it’s harder to pass on , if you wait to long your friends might have traded the game and moved on to the next thing.
    So I made peace with the fact I just don’t have enough time for all the games, and save some extra funds ahead off time if a big coop like the division comes along:)

    • Mossel

      Yup…I’m looking at everyone playing BLOPS3 and I am twitching!

  • Mossel

    I stare at Takealot and hover my mouse above the “add to cart” button. Then I realize I have no money and cry in the corner.

    • Grand Admiral Chief SpaceNinja

      You could always get to da choppa

      • Dutch Matrix

        Oy! Get your own lines!

  • DragonSpirit009

    I just try to avoid it all.
    Some of my friends is talking about Fallout 4 now and I’m just here like “Whatever” turn around and work. Guess the only time work forces me to work <_<

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